There is More to See

Matthew Vire • April 1, 2022

What Else Would We See if We Chose to Look?

I lost a dear friend in late 2017 to ovarian cancer. She was vibrant, inspiring, kind, and extraordinarily beloved. She helped people discover their creativity, believe in themselves, and see themselves as artists. We who knew her still feel the void of her absence. And yet the loss of her also brought with it unexpected grace. When we gathered to celebrate her life, tell stories of our time with her, laugh, and cherish our memories of her, we looked deep into our grief and found our Love staring back at us. We saw this Love because we did not look away from the pain of our loss but leaned into it with eyes and hearts wide open. As a result, we experienced not only our grief but magnificent gratitude as well.

When we see something displeasing -- however we may define it -- and commit to our own judgment of what we would rather not accept, we attach ourselves to a limited perspective. We can only see what we wish to reject from this limited place, no matter what else may be present. However, our perspectives need not be fixed, and we can look again. Maybe some ugliness will always remain, but that is rarely all there is. As the Dalai Lama has said, "Attachment constrains our vision so that we are not able to see things from a wider perspective." How might we see things if we seek different perspectives whenever life challenges us?

There is a story of van Gogh buying a pair of shoes in a flea market and wearing them through the mud of Parisian streets for some time. He would later paint them –– dirt, scuffs, and all. Van Gogh sought -- and found -- the presence of beauty in places and things we often consider mundane or even ugly.

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Dear Friends, Please read these two important announcements: First: We’re excited to share that The Garden has now officially moved into our new home at 7171 North Pennsylvania Street, Indianapolis, Indiana 46240. This is a joyful new chapter for our community, and we’re so grateful for the ways you’ve helped us grow into it. If you give to The Garden through your bank, IRA, or BillPay service, please take a moment to update our new address with your financial institution so your gifts continue to reach us smoothly. Second: We hope you will be with us for our Annual All‑Church Meeting on Sunday, October 5, immediately following the 9 a.m. service at the church. As a United Methodist congregation, this is one of those “official business” gatherings we hold each year. It’s short and simple—we’ll share financial updates, answer questions, and take care of the necessary business of being a church family. Even in our untraditional way of doing things, this meeting is a reminder that we’re in this together—tending The Garden with love, transparency, and care. With gratitude and joy, Carolyn and The Garden Leadership Team P.S. Please reply to this email if you have any questions we can answer!
September 24, 2025
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